On Saturday, I went out to one of my favorite clubs by myself to meet one of my friends. He didn’t show. Not only that, though he was texting me when I got to the club and knew I was there waiting on him, he never informed me he wasn’t coming. Beyond the fact that this was incredibly rude – I was hurt. Yes, yes – being a Buddhist, I should have accepted it as the way things are and blissfully moved on. I didn’t.
When I went out, I felt great! I looked good, felt good, and was going to have a good time hanging out with my friends. After getting stood up, however, I felt bad – ugly, unappreciated, and lonely. My night took a nose dive.
Looking back, I can see that those feelings do not line up with reality. Nothing about me changed that night. From the time I left my home to the time I got back, I was the same adorable, fun, witty, and charming guy. The only thing that changed was my perception. I gave another person a great deal of power over me that night. Well…no more.
“I have the power!” ~ He Man
I failed Saturday night. I failed to hang on to the fact that I am an amazing person. A rock doesn’t get upset when a bird shits on it, because the rock is not affected – it’s nature doesn’t change. I intend to no longer be affected by the actions of others, because my nature will not be affected by them. I have that power.
Maybe I am He Man…but I doubt I would look as dashing in a leather harness and bearskin briefs.